When you read the words ‘mother love’ you likely go right to thinking about the mother who gave birth to you or the mother who raised you. And while that mother definitely has a role to play in our lives, she cannot be our only source of “mother love.”
Mother love is... a specific kind of love that every human being needs – we don’t outgrow the need for it, although we sadly forget how much we do need it.
Mother love is… the deep, all-embracing, all-accepting, nourishing, nurturing, warm, safe, supportive love that soothes the places inside our hearts that feel scared and lonely.
Mother love is… the strong love that we can fall into when we are stressed, stretched, uncertain, and feeling like we just can’t handle what’s happening in our life.
Mother love is… love we can retreat into, feel held by, move through our deepest fears with. It’s the love we can sink into and cry our hearts out until there are no more tears left, and then wipe off our face, take a deep breath and all of a sudden feel the courage within that same heart to stand up tall and meet the world stronger.
Mother love is… a specific kind of love, and while we can receive some of that love from the human mother that gave birth or raised us, no mother, no matter how great she is can be the sole source of this mother love that we all need.
And I say need with purpose.
The world is intense. You have a lot you are holding. If you are living and showing up for your life, you will feel stretched past your limits and fear will come up. Even if you have the most amazing friends and partner, there are places within you that their love can’t get to. The deeper places in your heart where the loneliness, fear, doubt, feeling of not belonging, not being enough, not knowing how to live.
This is the domain of the mother love.
Sourcing Mother Love is not something most of us were taught how to do. So we either look for it in places we can’t find it (like our birth mother or unhealthy relationship) or we cut off our connection to it all together (we suck it up, try not to appear soft, and try to be strong in the dominating masculine or distorted feminine way).
It’s my deep belief and personal experience that to not embrace, that we each need Mother Love, AND then actively seek and receive it, is one of the root reasons for the disease, domination, and distortion we see in this world and in our lives.